Wow, that was by far the most awkward I have felt reading something in a long while. Besides the article being very poorly written and hard to follow at times, I felt like I was watching something that I should not have be privy to. Apparently, not only does this woman feel more comfortable discussing sex with a complete stranger, she has no qualms sharing it with the rest of the world, too. Also, not to be mean, but I really did not think that all the parts about her disability added any effect to the story. I felt as if by writing this, the woman was wanting someone to tell her, "It's ok that you got emotionally and sexually attached to a complete stranger that you met online, that's not strange at all."
In case it's not obvious, I do not really think too highly of online sexual relationships. I can see that reading explicit emails and writing "chapters" got this woman all wriled up. I personally think she feels guilty for letting a married man turn her on and for having a "sexual" relationship online. What started as an innocent friendship obviously has left her feeling sad, as if she lost a lover. Oh please, get over it.
But, then maybe I am missing something? Maybe I just haven't had a relationship like hers and I don't fully understand where she is coming from. I guess that this article is a definate example of how people do move quickly to devulging intimate things about themselves due to the anonomity online. She does make mention to that. Also, they began to write sexual things before they even knew what the other one looked like, and she mentioned that she sent a picture, but I don't think he did. He might not have even been a man! It's interesting to watch what people are so quick to share when they are sitting behind a computer screen. This anonomity is a reappearing concept in class. This article is just all the things we've discussed about meeting people online come to life....interesting.
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I agree with you Jamie, the article was poorly written and hard to understand at times, I thought I was the only one that was thinking that. I'm glad you feel the same way.
Personally I do not think you are missing something but I do know someone who is dating online and it's hard to say that it's wrong. I just don't agree with it either.
Jamie,
I agree with pretty much everything you said. I also felt akward reading the article and thought that it was hard to follow at times. I also feel as if she was using her disability as an excuse to get intimate with this married man. Then, at the end she just revealed that she had been talking to someone else the whole time? I don't know...the article was just not what I was expecting what so ever. I think it is interesting that she decided to share the story with the whole world. I am with you on the whole idea that online affairs and intimicay are un-natural and strange.
I agree I felt a little awkward at first too but at the same time I almost felt intrigued only because I felt like I was reading a diary that I shouldn't be allowed to read or hearing gossip that I shouldn't be overhearing! It was poorly written and I really don't understand the online dating as well...I probably never will
You are so right about the awkwardness. I found myself rasing my eyebrows more than once when reading this article. I don't really understand what made this woman want to share something so personal, not to mention embarassing, with some many people. However, it was a good article for our class. It is clear that being anonymous makes people much more open about many differnt situations.
This woman is very quick to discuss her disability, her age, her sexuality, her phone number, her job, and her current state of lonliness with a complete stranger online.
I think reading this article was one of the few times sitting in front of my computer that i actually expressed my opinion or disgust out loud while reading it. And I agree with you about the disability thing, even if it is mean. It really does seem like she is trying to make people feel sorry for her and tell her that what she is doing is ok, since she can't communicate FtF as well as people without her disability. But, no matter what disability she has, she was still out of line. But, I guess she isn't the only one to blame.
I also agree with you! I don't think that online relationships are a good things at all. It's like why don't you go out and meet someone, it's been working for all the other decades! Another thing you said that I agreed with was how awkward the article was for the reader. I felt as if I was creeping into someone's IM that I wasn't supposed to read. I think we felt awkward it's because we have such a negative outlook on the whole concept of online dating. I wonder if people who do support online dating don't feel awkward reading this.
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